Willie Macc Knows Bad Fathers Can Be Good Dads

What happens when raising your child forces you to confront the childhood you never fully healed from? In this episode of If You Knew Better , Amber Grimes welcomes comedian Willie Macc for an honest conversation about autism, fatherhood, mental health, and breaking generational cycles [00:00] .

After introducing Willie Macc [00:31] , they explore how his son Malcolm's autism evaluation led Willie to seek his own diagnosis [01:13] , and how growing up in a household where faith often replaced difficult conversations shaped his understanding of neurodivergence [03:48] . Willie reflects on unlearning childhood patterns [05:31] , choosing discipline without physical punishment [08:06] , and how therapy helped him process depression, recognize unhealthy coping mechanisms, and extend grace to his parents [13:17] .

He also shares how comedy became an outlet for healing [16:27] , the guilt he experienced as a young father [18:44] , and how losing Malcolm's sister strengthened their bond through vulnerable balcony conversations about grief, emotions, and mutual respect [21:58] . The conversation explores balancing freedom with boundaries [26:15] , adapting parenting styles to each child's needs [29:22] , and creating safe spaces for children to express themselves without judgment [29:49] .

Willie discusses understanding his parents' struggles through the lens of racism and generational hardship [32:14] , why siblings can experience the same household differently [33:15] , and the emotional weight of being an empath and fixer [37:28] . He explains how he makes room for Malcolm's individuality [38:51] , navigates questions about faith and spirituality [42:07] , and practices intentional, emotionally present parenting [44:07] .

From asking deeper questions that build trust [46:08] to healing generational trauma through accountability, forgiveness, and honest communication [48:49] , Willie Macc shares why being a better parent often begins with learning to understand yourself [50:51] . See for privacy information.