Truly Unruly with Marcus & Jessica Trufant

Jul 8 · 31m

This week, Marcus and Jessica dive into a listener email from a remarried dad whose ex-wife can't stand his new wife — despite her being an incredibly loving stepmother to the kids. What started as cold looks and sarcastic comments has escalated to near-brawls at their daughter's high school graduation. They break down the jealousy, unhealed trauma, and co-parenting chaos behind it all, and ask the real question: is she upset about the new wife, or just upset that he moved on and she hasn't?Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Jul 8 · 43m

A woman writes in saying her future mother-in-law has taken over her wedding — picking venues, guest lists, and colors — while her fiancé just freezes up. On top of that, his sister doesn't like her for no reason. Marcus and Jessica break it all down: why the son is really to blame, how to set boundaries without blowing things up, and what happens when parents can't let go of their kids. The talk goes deep into controlling parents, family loyalty, and knowing your place.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

May 18 · 36m

Can the wrong relationship actually hurt your body? Marcus and Jessica talk about new research showing that toxic people — partners, friends, even family — put your body under constant stress. When you never feel safe around someone, it messes with your sleep, skin, and energy. They also get into why cutting people off can make you feel better fast, how sharing too much drains you, and why your body sends warning signs before your brain does. Listen to your body — it never lies.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Apr 29 · 37m

Over the last three years, Jessica has gone through what she describes as more than a spiritual awakening — a full excavation of who she is at her core. She talks candidly about the unraveling, the work she put in on herself, and the moment things finally clicked into place. The clarity she gained didn't just change how she sees the world — it changed how she moves through it.That shift has been most profound in her role as a mother. Jessica opens up about how her new mental clarity has made her a more present, intentional parent. She's sharper, more grounded, and now parents with purpose instead of autopilot — actively breaking generational cycles so her children can grow into their own identities without the weight she carried. She's not just raising kids; she's guiding them with eyes wide open.The conversation also gets into the loneliness of real clarity, shifting relationships, the rebalancing of her bond with her mother, and a deep dive into how being raised Black and Catholic in Seattle shaped their sense of self in ways most people can't fully grasp.This episode is honest, layered, and deeply human.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Mar 24 · 35m

Marcus and Jessica break down a viral relationship advice post that's sparking heated debates online. A therapist claims women need to accept "tradeoffs" when dating—want a successful man? Expect long hours. Want ambition? Accept tunnel vision. But is this advice actually helpful, or just basic clickbait?Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Mar 16 · 30m

Marcus and Jessica tackle the controversial claim that Gen Z is the first generation to score lower on IQ tests than millennials. Are they really less intelligent, or are we measuring the wrong things?We break down Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath's research on cognitive decline and screen time, debate whether Gen Z is overconfident or just differently skilled, and explore how AI is reshaping the job market. Spoiler: trades are about to thrive while white-collar jobs vanish.Plus, we discuss the real culprits behind declining literacy—hint: it's not the kids' fault.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Feb 9 · 36m

In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica dive into a viral post about "what men actually want women to bring to the table" – and let's just say, we have THOUGHTS.We break down why generic relationship advice often misses the mark, discuss the dangers of social media "playbooks," and explore what a real partnership actually looks like beyond surface-level expectations. From emotional maturity to supporting your partner's vision, we challenge the basic narratives that dominate relationship discourse online.This conversation gets real about gender roles, conditioning, authenticity, and why people are so desperate for quick answers in our modern world. Plus, we touch on America's addiction to distraction, the dollar, and why we're all just trying to survive out here.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Feb 2 · 36m

In this episode, we dive deep into what we love (and don't love) about 18 years of marriage. From vulnerability and commitment to the reality that marriage isn't always a fairytale, we keep it 100% real.We also explore a Morgan Stanley study predicting that by 2030, nearly half of US women ages 25-44 will be single and child-free. Is this progress or a challenge to tradition? We discuss why younger generations are making different choices, the origins of marriage as an institution, and why personal choice should always come first.Plus: arranged marriages, the pressure to conform, and why it's okay to "swipe till you die" if that's your choice. Marriage isn't for everyone—and that's perfectly fine.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Jan 12 · 41m

In this episode, we dive deep into a controversial topic that sparked some heated debate between us: "Signs A Woman Couldn't Keep A Good Man If She Had One."What We Discuss:Confusing disrespect with honesty and communication stylesDouble standards in relationships and how we speak to our partnersThe difference between stability and drama in relationshipsUsing vulnerability as a weapon during argumentsSelf-sabotage and why some people are uncomfortable with healthy relationshipsThe importance of accountability and self-awarenessBreaking generational patterns and healing from past traumaLearning to love yourself before loving someone elseKey Takeaways:This isn't just about women or men—it's about recognizing toxic patterns that prevent us from maintaining healthy relationships. We explore how childhood experiences, modeling behavior, and unhealed trauma can create cycles that sabotage good relationships. The conversation gets real about the hard work required to change patterns, the fear of vulnerability, and why being alone with yourself is essential before being with someone else.Follow @trulyunruly_podcast