S3:EP1 Who Would You Be If Nobody Hurt You?

How much of your personality is actually YOU and how much of it was built to protect you? In the Season 3 premiere of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti B. asks one uncomfortable question: Who would you be if nobody hurt you?

We’re going beneath the labels we proudly wear—strong, independent, guarded, ambitious, unbothered, perfectionist, people pleaser—and asking where those traits actually came from. Drawing from her memoir Quiet As Kept , Shawnti explores how childhood rejection, emotional neglect, bullying, abuse, disappointment, and the need to belong shaped the woman she became—and what happened when she finally started separating her authentic identity from her survival identity.

This episode also explores research on childhood trauma, self-esteem, emotional regulation, resilience, and adverse childhood experiences. Grab your journal.

Because maybe you aren't “just like that.” Maybe you became that way. And if you learned it to survive, you might also be able to unlearn what you no longer need.

Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication.

She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness.

She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings. Website: Social media: IG: @shawntibsays FB: Shawnti Boswell, MA, CMHC TikTok: @shawntibsays YouTube: @shawntibsays