The Provider Role Is Changing..So Why Haven't The Expectations?

This week on So Shameless, Tahoe is joined by Paris Danielle, Lola The Divine and Yesssterday for a conversation that goes from hilarious relationship misunderstandings to some much heavier questions about race, safety and what Black Americans should be paying attention to. Paris opens up about realizing bartending simply wasn’t for her, before the crew asks why women are so quick to hit their man with “WRONG B*TCH!” when he remembers something she doesn’t.

Why is the first assumption that he must be confusing her with another woman? Then things get serious.

The crew discusses the blackout in Gary, Indiana and questions surrounding the length of the power restoration, reports and concerns involving Black people being found hanging from trees in the South, and what Black communities should realistically be prepared for if racial tensions in America continue to escalate. We also get into a disturbing Google search observation: why does searching “I’m alone with a white man” trigger language asking whether you’re scared or in danger, while similar searches involving other races or genders appear to produce different results?

Finally, we tackle one of the biggest debates in modern relationships: If men historically became providers partly because women had limited legal and economic opportunities, why are men still expected to financially provide now that women can earn, own, lead and—in many cases—out-earn men? Have the opportunities changed while the relationship expectations stayed the same?

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