When Sex Feels Like a Chore: Pamela Madsen on Desire, Aging & Why We Get BORED

Has your spark disappeared—or are you just bored? Because apparently, ladies, those are not the same thing.

And if intimacy has started feeling suspiciously like one more item on the to-do list, Pamela Madsen has some thoughts. Very candid thoughts.

In this lively, occasionally blush-worthy conversation with host Dr. mOe Anderson, sexual wellness educator, author of Shameless, and Back to the Body founder Pamela Madsen challenges some of the assumptions women carry about desire, aging, hormones, relationships, and what it means to feel fully alive in your body. Pamela argues that erotic energy is bigger than what happens behind closed doors—it can be a source of vitality, creativity, confidence, and connection.

She also explains why women may lose interest in intimacy even when they still love their partners, and her answer is refreshingly uncomplicated: sometimes, we're bored. The conversation gets especially interesting when Dr. mOe asks what happens when you adore your partner…but their bedroom skills could use a little continuing education.

They also explore menopause as a potential turning point rather than a closing chapter, how women can reconnect with themselves before expecting a partner to reignite the flame, and why Pamela believes immersive sexual wellness retreats can help women move from simply having an experience to creating lasting change. This episode is funny, frank, grown, and definitely different from your typical Perpetual mOetion conversation.

But underneath the laughter is an important message for women at every age: desire doesn't come with an expiration date. Two Quotes to Remember “You can't think your way back into desire.

It's a felt feeling.” — Pamela Madsen “The biological clock is finite. The erotic clock is infinite.” — Pamela Madsen In This Episode, You'll Hear: Why Pamela views erotic energy as life energy, not simply bedroom energy The relationship between hormones, aging, physical changes, and desire Why boredom can quietly undermine intimacy in long-term relationships How women can communicate what feels good without turning the conversation into criticism Why reconnecting with a partner may need to begin with reconnecting with yourself How menopause, midlife, and aging can become an opportunity to rediscover pleasure, curiosity, and confidence Learn More About Pamela Madsen Explore Pamela's retreats, programs, resources, and work with women at .

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