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Are you tired of no one responding to your Tweets, Facebook posts, WhatsApp, or group chat messages? Do you start your day by chatting with friends on social media or checking the group chat for a great discussion?
Eva does. Every morning she wakes up her husband Don (much too early for his liking) with pop culture, internet drama, nostalgia, and what's new, next, and "nah." Each week on Chat & Bother, Black, Gen X husband and wife conversation starters, Don and Eva discuss a question or topic that people are asking each other online.
It could be something that you and your friends are already talking about, or it could be something that you should be talking about.
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What Happens When the People Who Raised You Are Legends?
January 20, 2026 · 20m
What happens when the people who raised you are… legends? In this episode of Chat and Bother, Eva and Don discuss the pressure of growing up in the shadow of your parents' success — whether that success comes from family reputation, career expectations, or worldwide fame. They talk about how early we're labeled, how often we're pushed toward paths we didn't choose, and how hard it can be to figure out who you really are when everyone already has a version of you in their head. From everyday families to celebrity dynasties, the conversation explores: The weight of inherited expectations Why some kids feel trapped by their parents' success How fame multiplies pressure The difference between honoring a legacy and losing yourself to it Why carving your own identity is harder than it looks Eva and Don compare their own upbringings with the public scrutiny faced by the children of famous icons, and unpack what it means to grow up with a name that comes with built-in assumptions. As always, Chat and Bother isn't here to give you all the answers — it's here to start the conversation. Were you expected to become someone specific? Did your family's history shape your future? Did you break away and build your own path? Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
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"backstage, Underage..." Why Didn't We Question These Lyrics?
Jan 12 · 16m
In this episode of Chat and Bother, Don and Eva talk about the realization that a lot of the music they grew up loving does not age well when you actually listen to the lyrics as an adult. It is mind-blowing how popular music from the '80s, '90s, and early 2000s often normalized behavior that now feels creepy. Watch this episode with bonus video How did themes like objectification, stalking, cheating, property destruction, and blurred lines around age and consent get treated as catchy, humorous, or romantic? 🎵 Songs and Artists Discussed "You Remind Me of Something" – R. Kelly "Private Eyes" – Daryl Hall & John Oates "Do Me!" – Bell Biv DeVoe "Bust Your Windows" – Jazmine Sullivan "O.P.P." – Naughty by Nature "It Wasn't Me" – Shaggy Confessions – Usher "Super Freak" - Rick James Don and Eva also reflect on how parenthood, particularly having a daughter, has reshaped how they hear the music of their youth. They also discuss West Coast rap from artists like Too Short, Eazy-E, and The Dogg Pound, noting how difficult it is to find songs from that era that feel appropriate for children today. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
The Most Insane Scandals and Drama of the 80s and 90s
Jan 10 · 1h 1m
It's a SUPER EPISODE! Missed an episode or just discovering Chat and Bother? This Super Episode brings together Season 3, Episodes 1–4 in one binge-worthy hour, all centered on the biggest scandals and drama of the 1980s and 1990s. Press play, get caught up fast, and relive the headlines, chaos, and cultural moments that defined two unforgettable decades. Watch this episode WITH BONUS CONTENT on YouTube 00:00 - Welcome to episodes 1-4 02:27 - Tylenol murders (1982) 05:20 - Challenger explosion (1986) 13:36 - Jimmy Swaggart scandal (late 1980s) 18:28 - Milli Vanilli lip-sync scandal (late 1980s/early 1990s) 24:01 - Exxon Valdez oil spill (1989) 27:08 - Lorena Bobbitt (1993) 33:32 - Tanya Harding and Nancy Kerrigan (1994) 36:07 - Anita Hill and Clarence Thomas (1991) 39:08 - Monica Lewinsky and Bill Clinton (1998) 46:12 - Menendez brothers (early 1990s) 47:47 - O. J. Simpson low-speed chase and verdict (1994/1995) 54:57 - Princess Diana's death (1997) Links to the individual episodes S1E1 - What Were the Most Memorable Scandals and News from the 80s? S1E2 - How Much Do You Remember About Milli Vanilli? S1E3 - WHY?! WHY?! Do You Remember These 90s News Stories That Changed Our Lives? S1E4 - In the 80s and 90s we only talked about one scandal at a time. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
Sizzlean, Steakumms, Slimfast and More Fabulous Foods From the 80s
Jan 5 · 16m
We wanted everything we saw in food commercials in the 1980s. In this episode of Chat and Bother, we're talking about the foods we begged for, tolerated, or absolutely hated—and the aggressive marketing that convinced us we needed them. From fake butter spreads to questionable "health foods," we break down which products actually lived up to the hype and which ones were straight-up lies sold to our parents during Saturday morning cartoons. This episode pulls no punches as we roast: Carob, the so-called "healthy chocolate" that tasted like brown candle wax Black licorice, a candy nobody asked for that somehow still exists Whoppers, which may or may not have been chocolate-covered packing foam Steak-umms, the after-school DIY cheesesteak staple (ketchup-only households, stand up) Sizzlean, the "lean bacon" that disappeared amid claims it was anything but lean Pepperidge Farm broccoli & cheese pastries, the breakfast reward worth waking up early for Slim Fast, the mysterious shake marketed harder than it ever delivered Jell-O Pudding Pops, the frozen treat siblings fought over in the freezer If you grew up in the 80s, this episode will unlock memories you forgot you had—along with a few foods you're glad no longer exist. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
In the 80s and 90s We Only Talked About One Scandal at a Time.
Dec 29 · 17m
Remember when the news only came on at 6 and 11—and one scandal could completely dominate the country for months? In this episode, we take a deep (and sometimes hilarious) dive into the most unforgettable scandals of the 1980s and 1990s, back when tabloids ruled, celebrity justice looked very different, and America watched history unfold in real time. We talk about how news spread before 24-hour cable, social media, and citizen journalism—and why scandals from that era hit harder and stayed with us longer. In this episode: - Why the 80s and 90s were a TIME for nonstop scandals - The Menendez Brothers case and the shocking motive behind it - The O.J. Simpson trial, the white Bronco chase, and "If it doesn't fit…" - LAPD corruption, Mark Fuhrman, and why the verdict felt bigger than the case - How Robert Kardashian connects this trial to pop culture history - Celebrities, power, and how fame lets people "get away with it"… sometimes literally - Why consequences for figures like R. Kelly and Diddy only came after video evidence and documentaries - How modern media makes an "unbiased jury" almost impossible - The global shock of Princess Diana's death and the rise of paparazzi culture - When tabloids like the National Enquirer and Globe controlled celebrity narratives - A completely unnecessary—but passionate—debate about Delaware, chicken, chemicals, corporations, and questionable scents This episode is equal parts nostalgia, cultural commentary, and side-eye, with the kind of conversations only people who lived through it can have. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
Why?! Why?! Do You Remember These 90s News Stories That Changed Our Lives?
Dec 22 · 15m
If you were alive in the 90s, you felt these moments — even if you didn't fully understand them at the time. In this episode of Chat and Bother, we revisit three explosive news stories that stopped classrooms, dominated dinner-table conversations, and reshaped how a generation consumed the news. We break down the Clinton impeachment hearings surrounding Monica Lewinsky, revisit the Clarence Thomas and Anita Hill confirmation hearings that forced uncomfortable conversations into American homes, and relive the shocking Tonya Harding–Nancy Kerrigan incident that turned figure skating into headline news. Why did these stories hit so hard? Why were we watching them in real time as kids and teens? And why do they still spark debate decades later? From media frenzy to lasting cultural impact, we unpack how these moments helped define the 90s — and us. Press play, relive the chaos, and ask yourself the same question we still do: WHYYYYYY?! WHYYYYYY?! Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
How Much Do You Remember About Milli Vanilli?
Dec 15 · 15m
This week on Chat and Bother, we're rewinding to a time when the news didn't just break—it spilled, fell apart, and in one case… got cut short. We're unpacking three of the most can-you-believe-this-was-real stories from the 80s and 90s: - the Exxon Valdez oil spill, when corporate responsibility ran aground and cleanup plans clearly weren't shipshape; - Milli Vanilli, who taught us that sometimes the music hits… but the truth skips; - and Lorena Bobbitt, a story so shocking it had America clutching pearls, cracking jokes, and learning way more anatomy than anyone asked for. T hese headlines dominated classrooms, talk shows, and dinner tables, shaping how we learned to distrust big companies, pop stars, and the phrase "based on a true story." We break down what really happened, how the media ran with it, and why these moments still live rent-free in our Gen X brains. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
What Were the Most Memorable Scandals and News From the 80s?
Dec 8 · 18m
Do you remember the Tylenol Murders (now a Netflix movie!)? Where were you when the Space Shuttle Challenger exploded? What do you remember about the most famous 80s televangelists? Welcome to the season premiere of the Chat and Bother Podcast! We are kicking off this season with some of the news that Gen Xers remember. Back when news came on at 6 and 11, and the TV went off at the end of the day, remember that? Weigh in and tell us how old you were when these were the top news stories, and how these stories changed how you think about the world today. Get GIFs from this episode Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
Thirteen Cds for a Penny? Was Gen X the Most Advertised to Generation?
Apr 13 · 16m
Thirteen tapes for a penny from Columbia House? Win a million dollars if you order some magazines from Publisher's Clearing House? PART of a complete breakfast? Learning to break dance from Alfonso Ribero's BOOK? In the 80's they really went all in on getting our attention—and our allowance money. Gen X grew up in an advertising wonderland, where every cartoon had a toy line, every cereal had a mascot, and everything we saw on TV was a commercial in disguise. In this episode, Don and Eva talk bout their favorite ads and how marketers targeted an entire generation with jingles, prizes, and pop culture tie-ins that were impossible to ignore. Were we the most advertised-to generation in history—or just the first to know we were being sold to? Let's rewind the VHS and find out. Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MX2l6_HnN8&rel=0 Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips
Q&a Sunday - Which Black Movies From the 80s and 90s Shaped Our Generation?
Feb 23 · 15m
For this special Q&A Sunday during Black History Month, we're discussing the unforgettable Black movies that shaped our childhoods and helped define a generation. From classics like Coming to America, Friday, and House Party, to deeper stories like Boyz n the Hood and School Daze, we're celebrating the creativity, humor, love, and realness that Black filmmakers and actors brought to the screen. Watch on YouTube We're answering your questions about: Our favorite Black movies from the 80s and 90s Which movies stayed with us (and why!) How these films reflected the culture and changed the industry Gems you have to revisit We know you'll love this one, because as you know, Chat and Bother isn't just about nostalgia, it's about celebrating the stories that made us who we are. Listen, share with friends, and let us know YOUR favorite Black movies from the 80s and 90s! What is Q&A Sunday? Q&A Sunday is a weekly segment on the Chat and Bother Podcast where we answer fun, nostalgic, and thought-provoking questions, often inspired by Gen X culture. The questions appear live on our Facebook and Instagram Stories, allowing our audience to participate in real time. If you miss the live questions, you can still join the conversation by answering in the comments on our YouTube Shorts or watching the full episode on our YouTube channel. Listeners can also call in with comments or suggest new topics by visiting ChatAndBother.com and clicking the phone icon. Some responses may even be featured in future episodes! Where to find us: Instagram - @chatandbother Facebook Page - @chatandbother YouTube - @chatandbother Twitter - @chatandbother TikTok - @chatandbother Threads - @chatandbother Email List - http://eepurl.com/igYlfv Podcasting Help: Learn about how we make the Chat & Bother podcast and get podcasting tips