You're Not People-Pleasing If the People Aren't Pleased (Eric Thomas) | S2S 563

Eric Thomas thought he was a people pleaser. Then he looked around his own company and noticed something.

Nobody was pleased. Payroll was astronomical.

Every month was a prayer just to cover it. Morale was low.

And every time the money ran short, ET had the same answer: get back on the road and go make more. This conversation starts with one sentence.

CJ told someone who wanted in, "I don't trust you in the we right now." Not with his wallet. With the mission.

Because CJ had already watched a people pleasing spirit up close. He watched E people please his way into that payroll.

So CJ turns to E and asks him to talk to the people pleasers. What comes next is ET at his most honest: "I lied to you about what we was." He tells you why he did it, and it goes all the way back to being a kid watching Roots.

He tells you what one conversation with TJ about the NFL finally made him see. And he gives you the one question that exposes whether you are really people pleasing or just worried about what people think.

Then it gets personal. ET grew up in the Serengeti, but he raised his kids in the safari, where the meat gets thrown out to you right on schedule.

So he made a decision about his son Jalin that most parents will not make. Then Jalin got COVID, missed four days of work, and opened his check.

What he said to his dad after that is the whole point of this episode. Also in this one: why ET says workers don't get paid in this country, what a fourth and inches call has to do with your life, what being "half and half" gave CJ that E never had, and the phone call ET made to the father who raised him to apologize for something that made him mad as a kid.

So be honest. The people you keep taking care of.

Are they actually pleased? JOIN US LIVE ON PATREON New audio every Tuesday, video every Wednesday, plus live recordings with the S2S fam. https://www.patreon.com/c/S2SPodcast120 CHAPTERS 00:00:00 Cold Open: You Can't Say It's Bad When You're Part of What's Making It Bad 00:02:08 Welcome: AI, Water, and the End of the World 00:04:42 Chat GPT Turned E Into a Handyman 00:12:36 The AI Water Crisis: Chat vs Coca-Cola 00:18:06 Pre-Order We Is Greater Than Me 00:19:15 The People Pleasing Problem: When You're Really Self-Pleasing 00:22:08 The Payroll Crisis: When E Created a False World 00:23:39 Fourth and Inches: The Dan Campbell Philosophy 00:25:05 You're Not People Pleasing If They're Not Pleased 00:29:31 TJ and the NFL Reality Check 00:31:49 Workers Don't Get Paid: The Real World vs The Safari 00:34:07 If You Made Me, Make Another One: The Hov Principle 00:40:02 CJ's Half and Half Advantage: The Power of We 00:41:59 The Safari vs The Serengeti: Raising Kids in Reality 00:45:19 The Hidden Coke Story: Why Parents Hide Their Stuff 00:47:07 Jalin's COVID Check: When Reality Hits 00:48:32 Real People Pleasing: Standards That Set People Free PRE ORDER WE IS GREATER THAN ME The new book from Eric Thomas and CJ Quinney.

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