S3:EP4 The Lies We Tell Ourselves to Stay Comfortable

Sometimes the person lying to you the most is you. Not because you’re stupid.

Not because you don’t see the red flags. But because telling yourself the full truth might require a decision you’re not ready to make. “They’re trying.” “It’s not that bad.” “Nobody’s perfect.” “They’ve just been through a lot.” “I’m staying for the kids.” “I’ve already invested too much.” “Maybe I’m expecting too much.” Sound familiar?

In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast , Shawnti B. gets into the stories we tell ourselves to avoid uncomfortable truths about relationships, family, careers, friendships, mental health, and even our own behavior. Drawing from her memoir Quiet As Kept , Shawnti explores denial, rationalization, avoidance, hope, accountability, and what happens when keeping the peace starts requiring you to lie to yourself.

Because sometimes you don’t need another sign. You need the courage to admit you already saw the first ten.

Grab your journal. This one is about getting honest enough to stop participating in your own confusion.

Send us Fan Mail Support the show Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication.

She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness.

She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings. Website: Social media: IG: @shawntibsays FB: Shawnti Boswell, MA, CMHC TikTok: @shawntibsays YouTube: @shawntibsays