You’ve Been Using Attachment Theory Wrong says Leading Expert Dr Amir Levine

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Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: —————————— How much of your attachment style is actually formed in childhood? In this episode, Shan sits down with renowned psychiatrist and attachment expert Dr.

Amir Levine to unpack the myths around attachment theory and why attachment styles are far more flexible than people think. Dr.

Levine explores the nuances of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment, with a specific emphasis on avoidant attachment and the misconceptions surrounding it in modern dating culture. He explains why attachment is better understood as a belief system rather than a fixed diagnosis, revisits the groundbreaking “Strange Situation” experiment developed by Mary Ainsworth, and shares practical tools like the Tennis Wall of Love and the C.A.R.R.P. method to help build healthier, more secure relationships.

The conversation also explores how technology and modern communication have completely changed the way we connect, date, and experience intimacy today. Follow Dr.

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