Maybe You Don’t Need More Sex… Maybe You Need More Intimacy (Featuring Inez Powell)

What if the thing you're craving isn't actually sex? Maybe you want to be held.

Maybe you want a real conversation. Maybe you want to feel seen, understood, safe, or connected to somebody again.

This week, I'm joined by spiritual intimacy coach and sensual alchemist Inez Powell for a conversation about what intimacy really looks like beyond the bedroom. We talk about why so many of us confuse sex with intimacy, how stress and disconnection affect our relationships, why communicating what we need can feel so damn hard, and the different ways we experience connection that have nothing to do with sex.

I also had a realization during this conversation: sometimes when I thought I wanted sex, what I really wanted was intimacy. A hug.

Some affection. To be the little spoon and get my head rubbed.

And for men especially, why can asking for something that simple feel so difficult? This conversation goes places I wasn't expecting, including men's emotional health, vulnerability, boundaries, kink, communication, and how the way we were raised affects our ability to connect as adults.

Maybe the problem isn't that we need more sex. Maybe we need to get better at recognizing and asking for the intimacy we're actually missing.

In This Episode Why sex and intimacy aren't the same thing How emotional, intellectual, physical, and experiential connection show up in relationships Why affection doesn't always have to lead to sex Learning how to ask for the touch and connection you need How communication can make or break intimacy Why men aren't always given space to express vulnerability Setting boundaries and communicating desires without shame How childhood messages about masculinity can follow men into adulthood Why reconnecting with yourself matters before trying to connect with somebody else About Inez Powell Inez Powell is a spiritual intimacy coach, sensual alchemist, yoga instructor, massage therapist, and Reiki practitioner whose work explores intimacy, energy, connection, and personal growth. Connect with Inez on Instagram at @blacklistenyogi .

DAMN Challenge Slow down long enough to check in with yourself. What kind of connection do you actually need right now?

Before looking for someone else to fill that need, take some time to reconnect with yourself. Get outside.

Touch some grass. Breathe.

Rest. Play.

Do something that pours back into you. Because sometimes becoming more connected to other people starts with becoming more connected to yourself. 📲 Connect with Me 🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow 🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time : @ItsAboutDamnTimePod 💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now