Are We Attracting Ourselves? Why You’re Entertaining What You Say You Don’t Want (Featuring Lil D)

This week, I’m back with friend of the show, Dee 'Lil D' Porter, and we had to talk about a phrase that sounds good…until you really sit with it. “You attract who you are.” Do you though? Or are you just letting people stay who never should’ve had access in the first place?

We get real about self-esteem, patterns, and the truth about why you keep ending up in the same situations with different people. From wild dating stories to hard accountability, this conversation isn’t about blaming others.

It’s about looking in the mirror and asking better questions. Because at some point…you gotta stop saying “this keeps happening to me” and start asking “why do I keep allowing this?” What We Talk About The difference between attraction and tolerance How low self-esteem shows up in your dating choices Why “they like me” is not a good enough reason to stay The role of boundaries in who gets access to you Recognizing misalignment early and what to do about it Why potential will keep you stuck longer than reality The truth about outgrowing people and relationships It’s About DAMN Time… It’s about damn time I stop confusing understanding someone with excusing them.

D.A.M.N. Challenge Take a real look at your life this week.

Where are you saying you want better… but still entertaining what doesn’t match? Ask yourself: What am I currently tolerating that I said I wouldn’t?

Who has access to me that hasn’t earned it? Where am I ignoring patterns because I see potential?

Then make one decision that reflects your standards…not your comfort. Follow Lil D on IG → here Watch her new show, Love Lessons on YouTube → here Visit her website → here Connect with Me Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow Follow It’s About DAMN Time : @ItsAboutDamnTimePod Cop the DAMN University merch right here: → Shop now