S5E12: A Mature Woman Talks About Living Single with Grace and Purpose with Rotimi Iyun

By popular request — and because it's one of the top 5 most-played episodes in our catalog — we're bringing back this conversation with author and speaker Rotimi Iyun, now for the first time on video and available everywhere, including Substack and YouTube. Rotimi is the author of Wait Is Not a Four-Letter Word: The Mature Woman's Guide to Living Single with Grace and Purpose.

In this conversation, host Morenike Ogebe and Rotimi talk candidly about singleness in the church, waiting well, and what it means to build a life — not a holding pattern — while you wait. If you loved our recent conversation with S5E11 Shell Peterson on her "season of shedding," this episode is the perfect companion: same theme of active faith through uncertainty, different vantage point.

ABOUT ROTIMI IYUN Rotimi Iyun is an author, speaker, and singer whose work bridges the gap between mature single women and the church community around them. A senior consulting manager by trade, she also holds a doctorate exploring the evolution of marriage as a social institution.

Her book took four years to write — not because of the research, but because of the vulnerability it required. WHAT WE COVER Why it took four years to bring Wait Is Not a Four-Letter Word to print Answering "why aren't you married?" with grace instead of defensiveness "It's not material to God fulfilling His plan for me right now" — reframing singleness through God's perspective rather than your own The church's silence on divorce, remarriage, and abusive marriages — and what Scripture actually says Facing the fear of "what if I never get married?" head-on, and the practical steps that come after The difference between a good marriage and a “God marriage” Responding to the idea that waiting until marriage is "outdated" Waiting as a life skill every Christian needs — not just single people The "serial killer test": a humorous, pointed way to separate surface-level qualities from real character Practical ways to prepare spiritually, emotionally, and physically while you wait The "inner vow" concept — how unresolved childhood wounds quietly shape our expectations in relationships How to actually be a good friend to the single women in your life (and a few well-meaning habits to drop) CONNECT WITH ROTIMI IYUN Book: “Wait Is Not a Four-Letter Word” — available everywhere books are sold Email: timi@ Website: Music Amazon: Apple: YouTube: Related Listening S5E11 “Positioned for the Blessing: Shell Peterson's Season of Shedding" — a natural companion episode on active faith through uncertainty.

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