Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Aug 13 · 37m

Quote of the Day: "Connection: the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." - Brene Brown    In this throwback episode we're entering the fall as we embark on the last quarter of the year! This means holiday season is approaching and for many of us, that means work parties, family gatherings, charity events and all of the things that involve interacting with a crowd. If you are in school that means the end of the semester presentations and group projects. Did you hold your breath or feel your pulse quicken or maybe even a tightening in your stomach at the thought of any of those activities? Do you dread doing any of those activities for fear of judgment or ridicule? Then you may have social anxiety. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to differentiate between being shy, introverted, having a common response to a social situation, and social anxiety disorder. Terri and Dom share some of their personal experiences and provide some tips for how to face your social anxiety.      Takeaways:  3 Tips for conquering social anxiety  1. Set Small/specific Measurable Achievable Relevant/realistic Time-based goals  2. Get an accountability partner 3. Reward yourself    13 Useful, Expert-Backed Tips For Dealing With Social Anxiety   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 7 · 19m

Hey lady! Storytime! This week, Terri recounts how one fun weekend turned into an important lesson on the power of perspective. Dr. Dom offers sage guidance in transforming difficult situations into opportunities to build your capacity and resilience. The key to growth is continuing to adapt to life’s ever present challenges and having the tools to be resilient in the face of adversity – even when the adversity brings a chuckle. Let these possibilities strengthen your resolve to press forward in the direction of your goals. Keep the framework Dr. Dom and Terri in your back pocket so when tough time roll around you can roll right with them. Push through, lady! Your dreams depend on it!   This episode is brought to you by VB Health, supplements that work. Check out Soaking Wet for vaginal health. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1–2 weeks. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 6 · 36m

Assertiveness. When do you use your voice? How do you use your voice? What does it look like when you assert yourself? Where did you learn to use your voice? The answers to each of those questions gives you insight into how you express assertiveness. If you have listened to previous episodes on boundary setting and confidence then this throwback Thursday's topic will add to your arsenal of being a woman living in her authenticity. Terri and Dom explore examples of assertiveness and also distinguish assertiveness from aggressiveness, passiveness, and passive-aggressiveness. Asserting yourself may require risk but it will benefit you and everyone around you in the end. Be sure to scroll down to learn how to navigate situations that require assertiveness.  Quote of the Day: "I think of the next girl who is going to come along who looks like me, and I hope, 'Maybe, just maybe, my voice will help her.'" -Serena Williams Helpful resources mentioned: Tips to improve assertiveness identify the behavior; the impact; your feelings and what you want changed use "I" statements speak loudly and clearly avoiding pauses and "ums" own what you need aim for positivity and collaboration https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a28209579/serena-williams-us-open-2018-essay/  From Psychology Today: "Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication, while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others. There’s no question of where they stand, no matter what the topic. From a cognitive standpoint, assertive people experience fewer anxious thoughts, even when under stress. From a behavioral standpoint, assertive people are firm without being rude. They react to positive and negative emotions without becoming aggressive or resorting to passivity. Individuals who are high in assertiveness don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others to see their side. They are also open to both compliments and constructive criticism. Assertiveness is often associated with higher self-esteem and confidence.  People can improve their assertiveness through practical exercises and experience."   https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/black-women-leaders-approved-for-assertiveness-in-the-workplace.htmlSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 3 · 56m

Before the Target collabs, before the McCormick's deal, before millions of people called her their favorite auntie on the internet,Tabitha Brown was sitting in the dark, convinced she was dying. In one of the most honest conversations Happy With Tammi Mac has ever produced, host Tammi Mac creates a sacred space for Tabitha Brown to go all the way back. Back to 2016 and 2017, when she spent over a year battling a mysterious autoimmune illness that left doctors baffled and left Tabitha terrified. With a headache that lasted one year and seven months, vision loss, chronic pain, and failing strength in her hands, Tabitha's mind went to the place she feared most, her mother. Her mother, who died of ALS at just 51. Her mother, who was told by doctors that it was all in her head for 11 months, before being given six months to two years to live. Tabitha saw the mirror. And she prepared herself for the end. What saved her wasn't another doctor's appointment. It was a documentary. A conversation with her daughter. A decision to go vegan for 30 days. And on Day 10, the headache that had been her constant companion for nearly two years was gone. This episode moves through all three segments of Happy With Tammi Mac: The Dark Journey, Tabitha's health crisis and grief; The Turning Point, the plant-based decision that changed her biology and her destiny; and Finding Happy, what it means to look back at the viral car video that launched everything and choose gratitude over forgetting. Tammi Mac also shares her own story, the pandemic depression that inspired this entire podcast, reminding us that sometimes the most honest thing you can say is "I did this for me." This episode is for anyone who has been dismissed by a doctor. For anyone who has watched someone they love die too young. For anyone who has sat in the silence of a body that won't cooperate and a mind that has started saying goodbye. And for anyone who needs proof that a turning point is still possible. Happiness has been a hard word to come by, but it will exist again. 🎧 Subscribe to Happy With Tammi Mac on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Part of the Inflection Network. Hosted by Tammi Mac, known and loved from KJLH Radio. Coming up on future episodes: MC Lyte, Kelly Price, James Wright Chanel, and Judge Mathis.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 31 · 20m

Hey lady! Have you ever had that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that you are lacking something? That nagging feeling can cause great discomfort because it’s often considered a dirty word in polite society. The thing is that nagging feeling, often known as envy, while uncomfortable is completely normal. Once you know how to manage this emotion and turn it into fuel for creating the life you want. Dr. Dom and Terri offer a few insightful reflection questions to help you step out of any shame that may bubble up when feelings of envy arise. Lady, don’t let envy block you from getting your own shine. Let it be the match that lights the flame within you to go for yours!   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 30 · 35m

 Homegirl at the office stays winning. Your bestie in another city is getting closer to someone else. Which one is envy? Which one is jealousy? What other feelings come up? Often times they are used interchangeably and incorrect. Terri and Dom help us clarify what each term means. Then they walk us through multiple real-life examples to help us parse out what each word looks like when played out. What are the questions we need to ask to navigate each situation? Scroll down for some helpful tips. By the way, shout out to Meg Thee Stallion for those bomb-ass knees :)   Quote of the Day: “True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy; when you know you are great there is no reason to hate.” -unknown   Takeaways: Acknowledge the feelings Evaluate the situation with an open mind Identify the roadblocks (internal and/or external) What can you control? Remember to practice self-compassion Kill it with kindness Get support from community and/or therapy   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC    Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 24 · 19m

Hey lady! You know we love a mental health check-in, so we want you to answer one simple question for us…are you good? We mean that for real, are you good? Are you ok? How are you? Ok, that was three questions but you get the gist. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri stop by to holler at the strong Black women in our community to let them know that we see you. We see you getting up each day and giving it your all even if on the inside it is a struggle. This week they invite you to place the mask to the side and look in the mirror and assess how you are feeling and how you are doing. You can lay the armor down and tend to the parts of yourself that are tender without judgment. Doing so can help you avert full on meltdown or burnout because truthfully lady, ain’t nobody got time for that. So do yourself a favor, give yourself a hug or take a nap and allow yourself to validate your own humanity with self-compassion. As always, we have a community of like-hearted women who will welcome you with open arms. You are not out here alone, lady. Join us in our Patreon for real sistergirl support!   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Drive Boost for libido support. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 23 · 41m

Still on the fence about calling the lady? Well, then today’s throwback episode is just for you. Dom and Terri share their perspective and experiences with therapy to find the right fit. Through Terri’s sharing of her varied experiences and Dr. Dom's questions, the two to explore things to look for; questions to ask; and how to advocate for you may need. If you're ready to make the call, know that it'll require working through the ugly to get to the beauty, but remember to trust the process! Quote of the Day:"When we talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary." - Mr. Rogers Resources:Mood tracker appTalkspaceHeadspacePacificaMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black GirlsPsychology Today Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: herspacepodcast@gmail.comH.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 21 · 1h 44m

Rod and Karen are joined by Pete Dominick to discuss Podjam 3, the importance of community, doing warm-up for TV shows, interviewing authors, growing up funny, racial differences in comedy, political comedy, meeting J-L Cauvin, J-L running for office, hyper vigilance, and some white people news. The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast  Podjam 3 Tickets: https://events.humanitix.com/podjam3 Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/theblackguywhotips Twitter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@rodimusprime⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@SayDatAgain⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TBGWT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheBlackGuyWhoTips⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theblackguywhotips@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.theblackguywhotips.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Teepublic Store⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- https://the-black-guy-who-tips-podcast.dashery.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wishlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1PDD9JUQUNVY5?ref_=wl_share ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Crowdcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – https://www.crowdcast.io/theblackguywhotips Voicemail: ‪(980) 500-9034See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.