152. Are You Cherry-Picking Your Blessings?

Episode 152: Are You Cherry-Picking Your Blessings? What if the blessing you've been waiting for doesn't look the way you expected?

Sometimes we become so attached to our expectations that we overlook opportunities, relationships, and possibilities that could genuinely enrich our lives. We overthink conversations.

We over-expect specific outcomes. And we over-engineer situations, trying to control every detail instead of allowing life to unfold.

But there's a difference between being intentional about what you want and being inflexible about how you receive it. In this episode of Bounce Back, Black Woman!, Coach Del explores how our desire for certainty can sometimes get in the way of the very things we're hoping for.

From dating preferences (yes, even those two inches of height!) to career opportunities and major life transitions, this conversation challenges us to examine whether we're practicing discernment or simply trying to control the outcome. In this episode, we explore: The three "overs" that can get in our way: overthinking, over-expecting, and over-engineering.

Why confusing preferences with priorities can cause us to overlook meaningful opportunities. The difference between maintaining healthy standards and becoming unnecessarily rigid.

How prayer, prioritization, patience, and personal awareness help us navigate uncertainty. Why ruthless intentionality isn't about controlling every outcome.

How remaining open to unexpected possibilities can help us build resilience for whatever comes next. Your Bounce Back Challenge Think about one area of your life where you've been holding tightly to a particular expectation.

Ask yourself: What part of this is truly nonnegotiable, and what part is simply a preference? Then consider: What might I be overlooking because it doesn't look the way I expected?

You don't have to abandon your standards or make an immediate decision. Just give yourself permission to consider possibilities beyond the picture you've already created.

Remember: Sometimes the blessing isn't passing you by. You're passing it by because it doesn't look the way you expected.

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