088 | The Audacity to Stop Seeking Male Validation: Stop Letting Men's Preferences Define Your Value

How much of your life have you spent wondering what men think of you? Whether you're attractive enough, feminine enough, young enough, independent but not too independent, or the kind of woman a man would want to commit to?

Sis, it's exhausting trying to measure up to a standard that keeps changing depending on who's doing the measuring. In this episode, Ashlee explores what it means to stop seeking male validation and start making decisions based on what feels right for you.

Drawing from her own experiences, she challenges the pressure women face to shape themselves around male preferences and asks a bigger question: What could you do with your life if you stopped spending so much energy trying to be desirable and started focusing on what you actually desire? In this episode, we're getting into: Where the need for male approval can begin: How learning to make decisions for yourself, rather than to earn someone else's approval, can shape the way you move through relationships and life.

The pressure to be what men want: From dating rules and online red-pill conversations to expectations about age, femininity, independence, and being “wife material,” why do we give so much weight to men's opinions of women? The cost of constantly trying to be desirable: How monitoring your appearance, personality, choices, and behavior through the lens of male approval can pull you away from your own wants and priorities.

How to reclaim your time and energy: Imagine what you could build, experience, explore, and enjoy when you're no longer preoccupied with proving yourself to men. Wanting love without needing male validation: You can desire a relationship, enjoy romantic attention, and want to be loved without allowing those things to dictate how you see yourself.

A reflection prompt to help you center yourself This is Part 4 of The Audacity to Center Yourself , a series about giving yourself permission to prioritize your YOURSELF, your desires, and the life you actually want to live. And this conversation is just the beginning.

In Part 2 of this male validation discussion, we'll explore what it looks like to put this into practice in your dating life, your decisions, and the way you respond when a man isn't interested. If you're new to the series, start with Episode 83 and work your way through the conversations.

You can want to be loved and appreciated without making someone else's approval the measure of your worth. You get to have your own opinions, preferences, and standards.

You get to make choices because they feel right for you, not because you're trying to attract someone, keep someone interested, or prove you're worthy of being chosen. You have a whole life to live, sis.

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